OK, here we go: This month's column is dedicated to anal play. Still with me? Great, because an increasing number of couples—and at least one Girls character this season we're looking at you, Marnie —are exploring the sexual delights that both men and women can find around back. You might be among them!
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The massage parlor is already swallowing clients through its dark doorway; cheap perfume hangs in the air. The Home of Body Building exudes a sour sweat from the hall where older men are eyeing prancing young boys. But in a nearby shelter for former prostitutes the scene is demure, as girls settle down for group therapy. This day, a visitor is taking Polaroid pictures and passing them around. The pictures make the girls look like small, spindly birds, rather than sex objects. It is hard to imagine that not long ago these children, aged 11 to 14, worked as prostitutes, used by men three and four times their age.
It can feel like anal sex for women is the final frontier. But still, for some, anal is a big deal. But the fact remains that not only have many women tried it, but many women like anal sex. As Sinclair explains, not only is this narrative false, but it's also problematic in more than one way. For instance: that men have a bigger libido than women, that men coerce women into engaging in certain activities in the bedroom, etc. Such a narrative isn't just disingenuous, but puts limitations on what women are "allowed" to find pleasurable.
Imagine my disappointment in later life when I realised that no man I met would ever admit to having a name for his penis, or a fetish for dressing up as a penguin. When I was a teenager, sex was presented almost entirely in negative terms. Look at this photo of a genital wart! Listen to the voiceover describing the miracle of birth while a woman screams in agony! Understand that sex is largely terrible, boys will try to cajole you into it, and your job is to stop them.